Stating that the pandemic significantly increased the screen time of children, Psychologist Yağmur Bedir said that factors such as distance education and the increase in the time spent at home were effective in this increase. Stating that screens have started to play an important role in our lives with the advancement of technological developments, Psychologist Bedir said that screen addiction; He defined it as using devices such as televisions, tablets and mobile phones that require constant viewing of the screen for a long time and being unable to stand without using these screens even though they are not needed.
WITHOUT SUPERVISION, ITS PSYCHOLOGY MAY BE NEGATIVELY AFFECTED
Psychologist Yağmur Bedir, who defines the psychological disturbances that arise when the time spent on the internet is not controlled and the internet is disconnected as technology addiction, said, “In order to support the development of their children, the use of technology should be controlled in terms of content and time according to the age of the child. If there is no control, both the psychology of the child can be negatively affected and he can become a candidate adult for technology addiction in the future, ”he said.
Psychologist Yağmur Bedir, who advises the families, said that expressions such as ‘If I took care of him more he would not have such problems’, ‘I would play less if I did not work so hard’, ‘I could not entertain him enough’, on the contrary, guilt would limit the building authority and what can be done to eliminate the problem. stated.
DO NOT OPEN TV FOR DINING
Psychologist Yağmur Bedir made the following suggestions to parents whose screen addiction problem has reached the extreme:
“Level up with your child to regain control. In this way, there is no need for printing. To save your child from screen addiction, you will need to change your family system. Unless there is change, permanence cannot be achieved. No solution will work if you watch TV in the kitchen at meal times, if you are playing on the phone, if you are in front of the TV until bedtime. Increase joint time in the home. Board games, reading hours, a chat hour, or giving shared responsibilities can work. “
AVOID BITING YOUR CHILD
Pointing out that avoiding blaming the child is an important factor in the struggle against screen addiction, Psychologist Yağmur Bedir said, “If we react like ‘Are you on the computer again’ every time your child sits at the computer, our relationship is damaged and this brings the child closer to the screen. In order to prevent this situation, screen time should be determined clearly. The child should not stretch until he gets used to it. It must be accepted that there will be resistance to change. Compassion while setting limits helps break resistance. Overuse of the screen indicates a lack of connection in the family. Whatever the problem is, its resources should be found, solutions should be sought with the child ”.
MEASURE THE DIGITAL WORLD WITH THE 3-6-9-12 RULE
Stating that directing children in accordance with their developmental stages is also of great importance in terms of screen, Badir stated that children who have met with the screen at a very young age are more likely to develop screen addiction in the later periods, and the French Psychiatrist Serge Tisseron’s “3-6-9-12 He underlined that the rule is a resource that can guide both parents and experts.
Psychologist Yağmur Bedir explained what parents should do in the 3-6-9-12 rule as follows:
“Before the age of 3, the child should not be exposed to the screen. Until the age of 6, the child should not have their own electronic device. Children between the ages of 9 and 12 should check their parents while they are online. He should not use a social media account before the age of 12. “
TALK ABOUT THE INTERNET HAZARDS
In order to help prevent addiction, Psychologist Yağmur Bedir said that there should be no television in rooms outside the living room, “Parents should determine the time to spend with electronic devices, talk with children about cyberbullying and the dangers of the internet, screen time should be clear, alternatives should be produced instead of ban, children should be calmed and fed. it should not be seated opposite the screen. The child should be directed to social activities according to his / her interests and preferences. Screen is a good babysitter, but the long-term negative effects are much greater, ”he said.
“EXPERT ASSISTANCE SHOULD BE TAKEN IF THE RESPONSE TO LIMITATIONS IS EXCESSIVE”
Psychologist Yağmur Bedir, who also gives information about the psychological problems caused by technology addiction in children, said that depression, sleep disorders, increased aggression, social anxiety and other anxiety disorders, attention deficit, obsessions and social maladjustments are among the top symptoms. “It would be beneficial to get help from a specialist in cases where families spend a lot of time with technology, do not know what to do when there is no technology, and their reactions when they want to take away the technological device, which makes it difficult for families to apply restrictions.”