In order to achieve success, the child should not be exposed to the screen before the age of 3. Until the age of 6, the child should not have their own electronic device. Children between the ages of 9-12 should check their parents while they are online. He should not use a social media account before the age of 12 ”.
Stating that the pandemic significantly increased the screen times of the children, Psychologist Yağmur Bedir from IAU VM Medical Park Florya Hospital said that factors such as distance education and the increase in the duration of stay at home were effective in this increase. Stating that screens have started to play an important role in our lives with the advancement of technological developments, Psychologist Bedir said that screen addiction; He defined it as using devices such as televisions, tablets and mobile phones that require constant viewing of the screen for a long time and being unable to stand without using these screens even though they are not needed.
Psychologist Yağmur Bedir, who defines the psychological disturbances that arise when the time spent on the internet is not controlled and the internet is disconnected, as technology addiction, said, “In order to support the development of their children, the use of technology should be controlled in terms of content and time. If there is no control, both the psychology of the child can be negatively affected and he can become a candidate adult for technology addiction in the future, ”he said.
Psychologist Yağmur Bedir, who advises the families, said that expressions such as ‘If I took care of him more he would not have such problems’, ‘If I did not work that hard he would play less’, ‘I could not entertain him enough’, on the contrary, the feeling of guilt would limit the building authority and what can be done to eliminate the problem. stated.
Psychologist Yağmur Bedir made the following suggestions to parents whose screen addiction problem has reached the extreme:
“In order to regain control, be at the same level with your child. This way, there is no need for pressure. You will have to change your family system to save your child from screen addiction. Unless there is change, permanence cannot be achieved. If you watch television in the kitchen at meal times, if you are playing on the phone, no solution will work if you are in front of the television until bedtime. Increase shared time in the home. Board games, reading hours, chat hours, or giving shared responsibilities can work.
Pointing out that avoiding blaming the child is an important factor in the struggle against screen addiction, Psychologist Yağmur Bedir said, “If we react like ‘Are you on the computer again’ every time your child sits at the computer, our relationship is damaged and this brings the child closer to the screen. In order to prevent this situation, screen time should be determined clearly. The child should not stretch until he gets used to it. It must be accepted that there will be resistance to change. Compassion while setting limits helps break resistance. Overuse of the screen indicates a lack of connection in the family. Whatever the problem is, its resources should be found, solutions should be sought with the child ”.
Pointing out that directing children according to their developmental stages is also of great importance in terms of screen, Badir stated that children who have met with screens at a very young age are more likely to develop screen addiction in the future, and the French Psychiatrist Serge Tisseron developed 3-6-9-12. He underlined that the rule is a resource that can guide both parents and experts.
Psychologist Yağmur Bedir explained what parents should do in the 3-6-9-12 rule as follows:
“Before the age of 3, the child should not be exposed to the screen. Until the age of 6, the child should not have their own electronic device. Children between the ages of 9 and 12 should check their parents while they are online. He should not use a social media account before the age of 12. “
In order to help prevent addiction, Psychologist Yağmur Bedir said that there should be no television in rooms outside the living room, “Parents should determine the time to spend with electronic devices, talk with children about cyberbullying and the dangers of the internet, screen time should be clear, alternatives should be produced instead of ban, children should be calmed and fed. it should not be seated opposite the screen. The child should be directed to social activities according to his / her interests and preferences. Screen is a good babysitter, but its negative effects are much greater in the long run, ”he said.
Psychologist Yağmur Bedir, who also gives information about the psychological problems caused by technology addiction in children, said that depression, sleep disorders, increased aggression, social anxiety and other anxiety disorders, attention deficit, obsessions and social maladjustments are among the top symptoms. “It would be beneficial to get help from a specialist in cases where families spend a lot of time with technology, do not know what to do when there is no technology, and their reactions when they want to take away the technological device, which makes it difficult for families to apply restrictions.”