For women, whether they have realistic evidence or not, they are fear, anxiety, and anxiety that they will be deceived. Indeed, some women may be justified in their fear. These are women who have been cheated on by their spouse or partner in the past and have real problems with it. Therefore, his trust in his wife has already been shaken. They will naturally be on alert for any situation. This is also natural. However, in reality, there are women who have never experienced such a problem before and think like this even though there is no realistic information about it. Actually, this subject is very difficult.
Is pregnancy a risk in this regard?
Anxiety in women may increase in general during pregnancy. Therefore, this special period, due to some of its characteristics, “will I be deceived?” It’s also risky for fear. There are a number of realistic reasons for this. Unfortunately, facts such as staying away from sexual intercourse for a long time, changes in the woman’s physique (weight gain, edema), tensions due to not getting used to the new situation, constant fatigue and tension, will I be able to take care of my baby will unfortunately contribute to this situation. The woman tries to cope with these, but this information causes her to draw conclusions that the situation will not be easy at all.
Do men cheat during pregnancy?
Studies have shown that cheating during pregnancy is slightly more common than at other times. However, it is necessary to review the reasons for this situation. In fact, studies conducted in the world and in Turkey are contradictory to each other. There are rates ranging from 2% to 15% regarding the frequency of cheating. The reasons why pregnancy increases the risk in this regard are as follows.
Getting pregnant to save a marriage that has gone bad will aggravate the problems rather than lessen them. Also, if the spouse is cheating in the marriage, the business becomes even more troublesome.
– Pregnancy consisting of women and men not knowing each other fully is still a risk. Giving birth to a child is an important responsibility for both men and women. Therefore, it is necessary to evaluate whether the other person can take this responsibility or not.
Many factors such as pre-pregnancy people’s sexual lives, frequency of intercourse, whether they talk about sexuality, who started sexual intercourse, taboos about sexuality, knowledge levels, sexual satisfaction levels can be a problem during pregnancy.
Not having knowledge about sexuality during pregnancy, not being open to new sexual experiences, not consulting about sexual positions that can be used during pregnancy are among the problems.
-The change of priorities with pregnancy, adapting to the new period, the shift of the couple’s attention to the baby to be born may cause a decrease in their interest in each other, which may cause the fear that I will no longer be the center of attention.
– Unplanned pregnancies, or one-sided planned pregnancies can cause problems.
Does the fear of being cheated on during pregnancy have anything to do with sex and being disliked?
Undoubtedly, sexuality is important for human beings. However, an incompatible and unsatisfying sexuality before pregnancy can become a bigger problem with pregnancy. In addition, the limited sexual information about pregnancy and false beliefs are added, the problem gets bigger. According to obstetricians, pregnancy does not contribute positively or negatively to sexuality. Couples who have had regular birth control checks up to the last month and have no problems can experience sexuality comfortably until the last month. In addition, thinking about sexuality more broadly and knowing that sexuality is not just about sexual intercourse and can be experienced outside of it makes the situation easier.
Apart from this, the physical change with pregnancy, the weight gain and appearance may cause doubts and fears about being liked and desired. Feelings such as trust, intimacy, affection, love, sincerity allow physical changes to be accepted as normal, this does not change the attractiveness of the woman. Research shows that; Attractiveness cannot be explained by physical appearance alone.
What causes the fear of being cheated on during pregnancy?
If this fear is real, there may be a negative pregnancy period, depression, negativities leading to divorce. But we know that the fear of being cheated on during pregnancy is mostly unrealistic concerns. However, the fact that this fear is unrealistic does not prevent problems from occurring between the couple. For example, if the woman controls her husband’s phone, computer, wallet like a detective because of this fear, if she has an argument with her husband because of her unrealistic fears, if she becomes very touchy and starts to make sense of everything, the situation becomes critical. Even if there is no cheating, there may be a negative situation that goes up to depression, argument and divorce.
How can one deal with the fear of being cheated on during pregnancy?
First of all, it is important to intervene before the problem occurs. This means that you should not get pregnant before you are really ready or when there are conflicts or sexual problems in the relationship.
However, there are 10 golden rules if there is a fear of being deceived, which has no realistic basis, which occurs due to both hormonal and physical changes and mental changes during pregnancy.
1. Be sure to share these concerns with your spouse without exaggeration.
2. Talk about how you were affected by these physical and sexual changes.
3. Do activities with your partner.
4. Get yourself a hobby during pregnancy.
5. Do not neglect your self-care and care.
6. Be sure to get information from your Obstetrician and Gynecologist about sexuality during pregnancy.
7. Do relaxation exercises and breathing exercises. Do sports and physical exercises suitable for your pregnancy period.
8. Continuing to be in a relationship with your partner, namely flirting.
9. Be sure to smile, laughing increases the release of hormones that make people feel positive.
10. Do not hesitate to seek help from a Psychiatrist or Clinical Psychologist if the problem has begun to harm your relationship.