Stating that the students and their families are excited with the approach of YKS, Dr. Kahraman Güler said that it is natural to get excited when the exam time approaches. Advising the candidates to stop studying for the last 2-3 days, Dr. Güler suggested that they should “rest themselves mentally and physically”.
Stating that family structure is also important in experiencing test anxiety, Dr. Güler said, “Exam anxiety may also occur in children of families with high expectations, critical, perfectionists and those who do not know how to appreciate. The families of some children are also news from them. They don’t even know what their kids are doing. They left them very unprotected. Therefore, children do not know what to do with life, and they experience test anxiety because they feel emptiness and uncertainty. Families have a responsibility here. If there is a result, the reason is partly related to them,” he said.
“EXAM IS A TOOL, NOT THE PURPOSE”
Stating that the most important point for families and children is to know that the exam is not an end but a tool, Dr. Kahraman Güler said, “The child’s effort and effort should be appreciated. Let’s say your child hasn’t worked all year. Let’s say, ‘You did your best, the exam is a stepping tool for a better future for you to feel better and happy. You can talk to your children saying, ‘This exam is not more valuable or important than you’. If the families pay attention to these points, the pressure on the children will be reduced,” he said.
“EMPOWER EFFORT IF YOU ARE CRITICAL”
Dr. Güler told the families:
“It is not right to criticize children’s personalities, feelings, perspectives on life and to make them feel like they are worthless just because they did not get as many points as you wanted. If families are to criticize, they can also put some emphasis on the effort. Phrases like ‘You didn’t try hard enough, you can do better’ can work.”
“YOU CAN DO MINOR EXERCISES DURING THE EXAM”
Emphasizing that the excitement at the time of the exam is the end time, Dr. Güler said, “Students can get excited when they see difficult questions while translating the booklet, or when the teacher in the exam indicates the start time. At that moment, it would be logical to take a deep breath, stand calmly, put down the pen, increase their self-confidence and continue the exam by saying, “This feeling has come to them right now and I was excited about the previous exams that will pass soon, maybe I will lose 5-6 minutes, but I will gain the rest of the time” used the phrases.
Stating that if the student has too much anxiety, he can distract them by asking questions to the teacher or drinking water, Dr. Güler said, “If there are any little relaxation exercises he knows, he can do them. Those who don’t know can learn these from the internet in 7-8 days,” he said.
“DON’T SAY ‘We spent a lot of money on you, you smashed us’”
Mentioning what their families should do when students pass the exam badly, Dr. Guler said:
“How can we reach better tools while reaching our goal? Here, the child and family will begin the one-year process again. For some families, this can also be financially difficult. But the important thing is: The child will be unhappy and unexcited all the time in his next life, and preparing for life in a healthier way for another year may give better results. Parents should not tell their children things like ‘We spent a lot of money on you, you embarrassed us’. Because when you do this to that child, you are doing it for free and as your duty. So don’t make your actions seem like a favor to him. Being supportive always works.”